I didn't fully understand the game they were playing! Were they grievances specifically? It felt like awkward moments they got past, or mostly past, and they were saying "sweet" and "bitter," and I was confused. I also thought that was a terrible idea, and proposing a circle with Murderbot was enough that I'm surprised Gurathan didn't just pass out then to get away from it all!
The way I understood it, they go around the circle picking someone else among their friend group, and they say a "sweet" thing about that person (something flattering or kind, a good memory, that kind of thing) and then a "bitter" thing (some time they hurt the other person, or a grudge they're still nursing) so that it can be brought out in the open and dealt with. I get what Mensah is saying that "the bitter is part of the sweet" (it's normal to have small resentments and petty hurts about your friends, as well as the things you like about them) but also, HELL TO THE NOPE, this sounds like it could easily devolve into a full-on shaming circle nightmare, and/or bring up things about the relationship that would honestly have been better not mentioned. Not every small resentment needs to be brought up IN PUBLIC WITH THE ENTIRE REST OF YOUR FRIEND GROUP THERE. I would be retreating to the bathroom and never coming out.
(Though I did appreciate Mensah taking Gurathin aside once it was clear he wasn't handling it well and letting him do the rest of it with just the two of them.)
I find myself feeling guilty because I too remain more horrified by the killing of LeeBeeBee than by the killing of constructs, but I like how the show is dealing with that. It presents so very much as a comedy, but it has all this really heavy material . . . kind of like life. . . .
Well, there's also the fact that we got to know Leebeebee and she's clearly fragile and vulnerable and struggling. I think it would be different if we'd spent that kind of one-on-one time with a construct as well. Plus, the constructs were also very actively trying to kill them and are also hard to kill, so it requires a certain amount of overkill to stop them, whereas Leebeebee could (in theory) have been immobilized or otherwise incapacitated without killing her.
I think we're supposed to think about those moral dilemmas, though, and I like that the show brings them up!
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The way I understood it, they go around the circle picking someone else among their friend group, and they say a "sweet" thing about that person (something flattering or kind, a good memory, that kind of thing) and then a "bitter" thing (some time they hurt the other person, or a grudge they're still nursing) so that it can be brought out in the open and dealt with. I get what Mensah is saying that "the bitter is part of the sweet" (it's normal to have small resentments and petty hurts about your friends, as well as the things you like about them) but also, HELL TO THE NOPE, this sounds like it could easily devolve into a full-on shaming circle nightmare, and/or bring up things about the relationship that would honestly have been better not mentioned. Not every small resentment needs to be brought up IN PUBLIC WITH THE ENTIRE REST OF YOUR FRIEND GROUP THERE. I would be retreating to the bathroom and never coming out.
(Though I did appreciate Mensah taking Gurathin aside once it was clear he wasn't handling it well and letting him do the rest of it with just the two of them.)
I find myself feeling guilty because I too remain more horrified by the killing of LeeBeeBee than by the killing of constructs, but I like how the show is dealing with that. It presents so very much as a comedy, but it has all this really heavy material . . . kind of like life. . . .
Well, there's also the fact that we got to know Leebeebee and she's clearly fragile and vulnerable and struggling. I think it would be different if we'd spent that kind of one-on-one time with a construct as well. Plus, the constructs were also very actively trying to kill them and are also hard to kill, so it requires a certain amount of overkill to stop them, whereas Leebeebee could (in theory) have been immobilized or otherwise incapacitated without killing her.
I think we're supposed to think about those moral dilemmas, though, and I like that the show brings them up!